What are these red flags in relationship you must not ignore?
If you’re gut is telling you something is wrong, you must listen to it and must watch out for these red flags in relationship to save yourself from deeper pain.
We are told to steer people away or avoid people who displays “red flags”. These “red flags” are the signs that the person is exhibiting unhealthy or manipulative behavior. These negative attributes are not, at first recognizable, but in the long run, one can recognize it, most especially if there’s a pattern.
You have to break this pattern or this pattern is going to break you.
This term is often used in discussions about toxic relationships and this kind of toxic can be in any close relationships – friends, colleagues, family members, and romantic relationships. Once you see these toxic traits, the best thing you can do is to take a pause and watch from afar to gain a new perspective in order to think things through and eventually find resolve that would best fit you and and the other party.
However, the first step to do is recognizing these toxic behaviors as sometimes, they come in subtle manners you won’t even notice there were there this whole time.
The Signs
- Being overly controlling is one of the most common signs. Make yourself concerned if a person is controlling things like what you wear and where you go.
- Trust is essential in a relationship and if there’s lack of this, that’s a sign. There will be moments where you’ll doubt but this should not give you any reason to stop trusting the person.
- Abuse mentally, physically, and mentally are undeniably toxic behaviors. It is easier to recognize physical maltreatment while mental and emotional are the more damaging in the long run. This is just never acceptable.
- Narcissism is a disorder and if someone has this, it is characterized by self-obsession and being with someone like this can cause exhaustion and worse, traumatizing.
- Lack of emotional management such as anger issues is dangerous. You may never know what he or she can do at the height of her emotions. A healthy relationship should not make you feel threatened or unsafe.
- Codependency or “relationship addiction” is also a serious matter. Not only this is is toxic but this can also personal growth. Being with someone should not losing your individuality.
- Conflicts in a relationship is normal and an essential element and one who cannot embrace this constructive conflict and not being able to resolve it can lead to something unpleasant. Conflict and misunderstanding are uncomfortable but where there is discomfort, there is growth.
- Being overly jealous is also a no-no when in a relationship.
- Watch out for any gaslighting. This is a manipulation tactic and a person might distort what you believe is right to be wrong. This is clearly an emotional maltreatment.
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